I’m a white cis woman (she/her) in a traditional marriage, so I’m not going to pretend to be an inclusivity expert. I’m not – I’m learning all the time. Maybe a legal marriage or civil partnership doesn’t suit your values. Maybe you are in an unconventional or legally unrecognised relationship. But that doesn’t have to mean that you can’t make…
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The Unity Candle Ritual
What is a ritual? The word ‘ritual’ can spook some people. Ceremony is a familiar idea, but rituals? They sound kind of wierd, and possibly kind of dark. Well, I’m here to tell you that rituals are for everyone. We probably have our own daily rituals that we don’t even think about. Do you have a favourite mug that you…
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Music and funerals
For most of us, music is an integral part of any wedding, funeral or other ceremony. Music suspends time and can influence collective emotions. It takes us out of an everyday space. Ceremony and music go hand in hand across history, across religions, across cultures. Some songs will instantly bring back a specific time and place in our lives. We…
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Pet Funerals
Pets funerals and why you might want to have one.
Inclusivity – Let’s talk about gender and identity.
I’m a white cis woman (she/her), so I don’t have direct personal experience of most issues around gender. I’m not going to pretend to be an inclusivity expert. I’m not – I’m learning all the time. I’m not going to ask you to prove anything. If you tell me you are a man, I believe you. If you identify as…
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